Getting Personal: Midriff.


Hey there bow friends,

Today’s post is a little different.  Although it’s titled “Midriff” it could also be titled “Things I’m Not Ashamed Of.”  I have realized there are some things I do or are a part of me that other people don’t like or find embarrassing.  I really hate that.  I hate it a lot.  It’s hard to be comfortable and confident in your own skin while being judged by those around you.  I thought I’d list things that I am not ashamed of in order to..feel better about myself.  Anyways, let’s get to that list.

  • I’m an average student and it takes a lot of work to be that average student.  I do the best that I can.
  • I do swear.  In fact I think I swear an average amount for a college student in their twenties.  It’s not my favorite, but I don’t hate myself for it.
  • I eat my feelings sometimes.  Often.
  • I used to overpack a lot.  Now I can’t live down that reputation.  Oh well.
  • As I’ve mentioned before, I’m over weight.
  • I have struggled with depression and anxiety since elementary school.  Panic attacks and all.
  • I’m a very sensitive person.  Ask Beau.  When I get really happy, I cry.  When I watch Long Island Medium, I cry.  First 10 minutes of Up?  I cry.
  • I love Lady Gaga.  Let me be a little more clear.  I love Lady Gaga.
  • I am, above all other things, a sass master.  I have strong opinions and an even stronger ability to make sure they are heard.
  • I talk loudly.  It’s in my blood to talk loudly.  My inner Puerto Rican refuses to be silenced.
  • Regardless of what others may think, I’m actually quite the introvert.  I have to try awfully hard to socialize with people and I surprisingly don’t like being with others all that much.  Social situations often times exhaust me.  What’s nice is once I am comfortable with people (My family, Beau and his family, my friends) I don’t feel like I have to try as hard.  This does mean I have a hard time making friends unfortunately.
  • I am obnoxiously proud of being from New York.  I’ve lived in Florida for 14 years and although it’s been home for that long, it hasn’t ever really felt like home. It’s just not the right fit for me.
  • Occasionally, I dress in ways that others don’t think is appropriate for my weight. For instance, showing a little bit of my midriff.  All I can say is that if it makes me feel good, I’m going to wear it no matter how uncomfortable it makes you feel.

I’m really not embarrassed or ashamed of the person I’ve become.  As humans, we are constantly changing and developing.  I’m trying to learn to love that process.  I’ve also been trying to be a stronger person and to build my confidence lately.  I just thought something like this post might help me feel better.  I actually do feel really good now.  I’m going to make some tea and take some time to appreciate myself.

I encourage you to all tell me one thing you’re not ashamed of in the comments, twitter, or facebook.   We can be fancy and even give it a hashtag. #Midriff ?  Maybe it will help you feel better too.

We shall talk soon.

-Tara Joy ❤

49 thoughts on “Getting Personal: Midriff.

  1. lauraannx

    I love this post! I relate to you on quite a few of the points you made but quite recently, I’ve started wearing crop tops despite being ‘curvier’. I’m loving it though.. If someone doesn’t like me wearing them, they shouldn’t look.
    I’m so glad you’re embracing who you are! Awesome post! x

  2. Ashley

    A lot of your points hit me, Tara, because I share your feelings. I like thinking that EVERYONE is beautiful and perfect in his or her own right. Who is to say what beauty and perfection truly mean? One person’s opinion might completely differ from another’s, so in reality there is no true definition.

    That being said, I’m unashamed of wearing makeup and trying to look my best everyday. Even if I go to the gym or am lounging around the house. It’s not that I feel I am incomplete without wearing a bit of mascara or a hint of lip gloss, it is because I like the art of it all. Every morning I am in a rush to get to work or school or somewhere, and that small bit of time I take to be in front of the mirror and actually acknowledge myself is enough to make my day go a bit smoother. I’m all for girls who believe nude is beautiful, I agree wholeheartedly. But to those who smirk and snarl at me for simply being myself with a bit more color… why all the hate?

    1. beausandbows

      I love that you are embracing who you are and doing what makes you comfortable. Putting my face on in the morning makes me feel so nice. It’s like pampering and taking care of myself and it makes e happy. I totally understand where you’re coming from. Whatever makes you happy, keep doing it.

      -Tara Joy

  3. vintagemunchkin

    Good for you. Girls should be nicer to each other, but often we’re not. We’re all being judged by similar standards, and yet we criticise each other so harshly sometimes. If you love it, great! I’m still working on loving my jelly rolls…

    1. beausandbows

      Girls really should be nicer to each other! I totally agree! It’s all about supporting each other and building each other up. Girls and boys alike.

      -Tara Joy

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  5. leafprobably

    Brave! I eat my feelings all the time… I used to go sit outside and eat cookies on bad days because my workplace is full of marathon runners, and people on various weird diets. I stopped doing that because I’m not ashamed of bad day cookies, and now when I eat chocolate chunks at my desk because my last phone conference sucked, the lady across from me who gave up sugar last month and only eats every second day looks like she’s about to tackle me and steal my delicious, delicious cookies. Bahaha. I win.

  6. Britney Lee

    This is such a well written post! I can relate on a lot of points…the over emotional (I’ve cried because a diaper commercial was so cute) and I over-pack but I don’t care! what if I need the thing I’m packing?! And who’s going to have the last laugh when the person you laughs at me needs to us it! Lol you rock your midriff girl.

  7. smellwelsh

    This is a really good read! Too many people are ashamed of parts of themselves they shouldn’t be. I dread summer as it means showing more skin and I dont like me eczema x

    1. beausandbows

      Thank you (: It’s totally true. We should be more proud of ourselves and we should build each other up as much as possible. I’m sure it’s probably blah to hear someone who doesn’t have eczema say “embrace your eczema,” but honestly it’s a part of who you are and if embracing it means hiding it when you’re not comfortable showing it, then go for it. <3

      -Tara Joy

  8. Her Face In the Crowd

    Ugh, I love this on so many levels. I also suffer from anxiety/panic attacks and I’m slightly overweight. Oh, and I am a loud Latina THAT CAN’T SHUT HER LOUD MOUTH. Really glad your blog popped up on my ‘You May Like’ section. You have a new reader from DC 🙂

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